"A Real Gentleman will apologize after a fight, even if He's not wrong."

-Seorang Pria Sejati akan meminta maaf setelah perselisihan, sekalipun dia tidak bersalah-

"A REAL Man stay FAITHFUL"

-Seorang Pria sejati akan tetap SETIA. Mereka tidak memiliki waktu untuk mencari wanita lain karena mereka terlalu sibuk mencari cara-cara baru untuk membahagiakan wanitanya sendiri-

Man, If a woman is responsible for your smile, please be responsible with her heart!

"Jika seorang wanita selalu berusaha membuat Anda tersenyum, sekarang giliran Anda yang bertanggung jawab atas HATI nya."

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A Message To All Men: 

"Who You Are"

"A gentleman introduces you to his parents, not his bedroom." -Lean Darrow

"Seorang Pria mengenalkan orangtuanya kepada sang wanita, bukan kamar tidurnya."

"Will the REAL man please stand up.."

Today’s culture gives many opinions when it comes to the topic of being a “real man” in today’s world. Our society likes to tell men how “real men” are to dress, act, work, walk, talk, love, and present themselves to the public. As The Church, I believe it is our duty to teach the world what a “real man” is to look like, but I believe even The Church of today has found itself spewing out opinions instead of Biblical truth.

Over the last few years I have come across a countless number or sermons where Pastors are explaining to their congregations what a “real man” is to look like. The funny thing is that every one of the messages I listened to described the perfect man in a different way.

Without going into detail of who said what, here are some quotes from different pastors around the USA.

1. “We don’t need anymore skinny-jean, cardigan wearing pastors. We need real men.”

2. “We need more men to start lifting weights and BEING MEN!” 

3. “I could care less if you work-out , just make sure you are providing for your wife financially. That’s what being a real man is all about!”

4. “We can’t claim to be men if we aren’t strong enough to protect our wives.” 

Most of the quotes contradict each other in a big way, and I believe the reason we have so many boys in today’s world because not even the Church is giving a clear example of what it means to be a real man. Don’t get me wrong, I believe all these pastors have pure motives in their descriptions of a “real man”, but I think much of it comes out of opinion rather than biblical truth. (except maybe the financial one) 

At the end of the day, I think God could care less if you work out, wear skinny-jeans, cardigans, tank-tops, button-ups, or even suits. God is more focused on the way you present your heart than the way you present your outward appearance. Why? Because the way you present your heart will always be reflected in the way you present your appearance, and that’s what truly matters. 

If I were to guess what God is looking for in a real man, I would have to say the following…

1. A man who prays. (Luke 5:16)

2. A man who reads his Bible. (Luke 4:16-30)

3. A man who loves one woman as Christ loved The Church. (Ephesians 5:25)

4. A man who isn’t afraid to proclaim his faith a midst opposition. (Joshua 1:9)

5. A man who seeks the lost, provides for the broken, and equips the found. (Matthew 28:19)

Seems pretty straightforward to me. All of these attributes are a reflection of Jesus’ innate character, and I don’t find any of those to be anything other than Biblical truth.

Gentlemen, we need to begin asking ourselves some important questions:

1. Am I a real man?

2. Do I reflect an image of Christ?

3. Do I stand firm in my faith a midst trials?

4. Do I find myself inspired to obey the calling of The Great Commission?

5. Do I treat women with respect, purity, and as Christ loved The Church?

Strength isn’t measured by how much a man can lift, but where his faith in Jesus stands a midst a seemingly impossible situation.

- Jarrid Wilson

"Stuff GUYS need to learn it comes to GIRLS"

Most gentlemen aren’t very skilled when it comes to the ways of a women. And although I don’t claim to be a relationship expert, I do have a few things I think all men need to work on.

Here is some stuff guys need to learn when it comes to girls:

1. We need to learn how to talk to you.

- Let’s face it, us guys don’t know how to talk to women. It’s not that we are idiots, but that sometimes it’s hard for us to communicate the way a woman needs. The key in learning how to talk to a girl is first listening to her. When we fail to listen, we will fail in our attempt to talk in a way that shows sincerity.

2. We need to learn how to act when we are around you.

- Sometimes we forget to turn off “guy mode.” It’s not that “guy mode” is wrong, but that it doesn’t necessarily translate well when we are with the ladies. We as men must learn how to act around women, their friends, and their family. We must learn to be kind, gentle, and engage in actions that reflect biblical direction.

3. We need to learn how to respect & honor you.

- Honor and respect are huge aspects of any relationship. Learning to honor and respect a girl is one of the major issues in today’s society and culture. Men must learn how to treat girls in a way that reflects the way Jesus loved his Church. We are called to reflect purity, honor, and respect that goes beyond limits.

4. We need to learn how to comfort you.

- Us guys like to fix stuff. And although we might be very good at it, that’s not always the answer a girl needs when she is feeling down or hurt. Sometimes, the simple act of wrapping our arms around her and praying will bring her the comfort and joy she needs to move on. Don’t think you need to fix everything. Sometimes girls just need someone who is willing to listen and be heard.

5. We need to learn how to encourage you.

- Encouragement is key. There are so many reasons for girls to feel insecure in today’s world. And although most of these reasons are false, it doesn’t mean they don’t affect girls in a mighty way. We as guys must learn how to encourage and support women in a way that lifts them up to see their worth in Christ.

By Jarrid Wilson